I have been noticing more and more clients are shaving their chest and genital area and I even had a guy who also shaved his legs. I think hair on a man's chest is masculine but a hairy back, not so attractive. I can understand removing hair from the back and even trimming overgrown genital hair down a bit. I don't really get the whole clean shaven look and I have also seen one older man who had obviously shaved his chest hairs. I can feel the stubbles and it's prickly to the touch and I always wonder why a man would want to do that. I don't like shaving my legs or genitals but do it out of necessity only, although, I have had men call and ask if I am unshaven so there are men out there who are into hairy women.
Maybe they like the neat look but it just seems weird to me to have a hairless man on my table. Curiosity just might lead me to ask one of these guys why one day.
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Genital hair also increases genital odor. I'll shave the genital hair, trim down the pubic hair/underarm hair as a neatness and odor thing. I don't get the totally clean shaved thing, either.
About the men who call and ask if you are unshaven -- do you ever remove all of your clothes for a massage? Earlier on, you mentioned wearing panties/women boy shorts and a lace cami. When they ask if you are unshaven, are they just hoping you will doff the pants or have you actually done so?
If you do decide to offer a nude option, I think you should only offer it with clients you are comfortable with who have already demonstrated that they can and will respect your boundaries. It just sounds to me like you feel too assaulted by guys who try to push things with you.
Be careful with yourself. You sound a little fragile in your feelings about all of this. You really don't want to do damage to how you feel about yourself. Good luck!
I think the men asking if I am unshaven are possibly assuming nudity but I do not offer or provide nude massage, I have considered topless but I don't think I would feel comfortable doing that either, I just don't like strange hands touching me and honestly I don't want to get too comfortable with any of these clients now.
The one exception was the older gentleman who received the first sensual massage from me, he had asked if he could massage me as well and after about 3 months I finally let him and then he disappeared for about a month (he travels a lot but whatever). I think I got too attached to him and my feelings were hurt. Apparently I can massage a man without any feelings connected but I can't receive it as easily.
The whole sensual massage thing is definitely taking its toll on me emotionally and I am looking into other alternatives.
It's funny (amazing, mysterious) how emotionally powerful touch between people can be. Your emotional reaction to receiving massage may give you some insight as to how some of your clients may be reacting to receiving massage (and other intimate touching) from you. At least, for some of the guys who aren't just pigs about the whole thing.
Whatever you end up doing, please post something about it. I'd like to know how you work all of this out for yourself.
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