Lon had called me over several months trying to get an appt., I think he was calling before I started doing sensual massage and the tone of his calls indicated that that's what he was looking for. He was driving through from another city and would call whenever he was in the area, it was usually late afternoon/early evening. I wasn't sure if I really wanted to see him and would usually say I was not available at the time he would be around. Around mid Dec. he called one morning saying he would be in the area shortly and wanted an appt. I agreed to see him in about an hour.
I opened the door to a gray haired man who is at least in his late 60's or older, I thought he was a younger guy all these months. when I see him, I breath a sigh of relief. I am wearing some baggy silky shorts with a lacy top, he says I look nice as I lead him into the massage area. He tells me that he doesn't want any oil and he wants a very light touch massage then slowly runs his hand up and down my arm three times to show me what he means, I say ok, got it. As he gets on the table he says he is really going to enjoy this. He rubs my arm again to show me one last time how he likes it, just in case I didn't get it before.
I come back in the room and start lightly running my hands down his back and his starts lightly rubbing my thigh, he is saying that it feels really good. Soon I move to his side and out of his reach as I start to massage his buttocks. So far, the guys seem to enjoy getting their balls and around that area massaged so I usually give extra attention to the area and I have found that I actually like massaging that area, and during that time I don't have to worry about someone trying to grab me. He seems to be really getting into it and all too soon he decides that he is going to turn over. He reaches out and starts rubbing my stomach through my top as I start lightly running my hands down his chest. As I lean over, he asks "can I touch your nipple?" I pause and say, "sorry, they are off limits." He starts drawing imaginary circles on my stomach, through my top. I reach for his penis and start lightly stroking it with one hand, it is semi limp but each touch brings it more to life. He moans and again starts asking to touch my nipples and this time he adds, "it will help me come" and I am thinking, "dude, I am holding your penis in my hand and I am certain that you will come just fine without seeing my nipples." I take my other hand and rub the underside of his penis about two times and it's all over. And I thought men are visual :)
Saturday, December 31, 2011
Tuesday, December 27, 2011
Hall Of Shame Deux
Even though I have a couple of these stories of guys with "therapeutic need" for a massage, writing about them either depresses or pisses me off and I don't want to go into the New Year bringing up more of these experiences, so this will be it :)
Gabe- mid 30's to 40's. Soon after I started after massage school I advertised therapeutic massage on Craigslist for $45 for one hour and this guy called and asked some questions that made feel uneasy. For some reason when he called again I did not check my log to see that he had called before. He wanted to come in for a massage asap. Twenty minutes past the time he was supposed to be here he called to say he was caught in heavy traffic, it took him another 30 minutes to get here. I should have just cancelled the appt then.
He claimed to have some trouble with his thigh area so he wanted some time spent on that area. After about 30 minutes I was just about to have him turn onto his back he asked me to dig into his right glute muscle with my elbow really hard, he said it hurt but felt good. He was groaning and making grinding motions. He kept asking me to do more work on that area. I finally asked exactly what was wrong with the area. He said he had been hurt in an accident and had been seeing a Chiropractor until the insurance stopped paying. He said the Chiro had done "crossfiber", applying deep friction to the muscle and asked if I could do that as well. The location he wanted the work on was very difficult to "crossfiber." Because this guy was having me do such deep work I was starting to think he really did have the issues he said and I continued to work on him, I was drenched in sweat.
He had asked for one hour and at about 20 minutes past his hour he wanted to flip over and I told him that I would have to end the session soon before I have to pick something up from somewhere. He wanted his inner thigh massaged and then asked if I could massage his abs. While I was massaging his abs he started moving the cover further down and I saw him looking at my face, I guess he was trying to gauge my reaction. I kept massaging his abs and his hands started going toward his genital area and I heard him say "could you......" I interrupted him before he could finish what he was about to say and I said "your time is up" and walked out of the room.
I felt so digusted and angry because I had really believed he had a therapeutic need for a massage. I called a friend so when he came out of the room I could just show him out. He came out and found me standing by the front door. He handed me the money with a $10 tip and he said he would call to schedule another appointment. I just opened the door so he could leave without me saying a word. I felt violated in a way and needed a shower to wash away the disgust I was feeling.
That guy really had me confused. I still can't decide if he was actually someone who had an injury and figured he could use it to fool an unsuspecting massage therapist into doing extra work on him and then try to turn it into something more. Or he is someone who enjoys pain and learned some terminology so he could sound like he had a legitimate reason for asking for some uncomfortable work to be done on him. I decided then that I would start collecting payment upfront, and I would no longer go over the time the client was paying for and I went and got pepper spray later that day, just in case.
Gabe- mid 30's to 40's. Soon after I started after massage school I advertised therapeutic massage on Craigslist for $45 for one hour and this guy called and asked some questions that made feel uneasy. For some reason when he called again I did not check my log to see that he had called before. He wanted to come in for a massage asap. Twenty minutes past the time he was supposed to be here he called to say he was caught in heavy traffic, it took him another 30 minutes to get here. I should have just cancelled the appt then.
He claimed to have some trouble with his thigh area so he wanted some time spent on that area. After about 30 minutes I was just about to have him turn onto his back he asked me to dig into his right glute muscle with my elbow really hard, he said it hurt but felt good. He was groaning and making grinding motions. He kept asking me to do more work on that area. I finally asked exactly what was wrong with the area. He said he had been hurt in an accident and had been seeing a Chiropractor until the insurance stopped paying. He said the Chiro had done "crossfiber", applying deep friction to the muscle and asked if I could do that as well. The location he wanted the work on was very difficult to "crossfiber." Because this guy was having me do such deep work I was starting to think he really did have the issues he said and I continued to work on him, I was drenched in sweat.
He had asked for one hour and at about 20 minutes past his hour he wanted to flip over and I told him that I would have to end the session soon before I have to pick something up from somewhere. He wanted his inner thigh massaged and then asked if I could massage his abs. While I was massaging his abs he started moving the cover further down and I saw him looking at my face, I guess he was trying to gauge my reaction. I kept massaging his abs and his hands started going toward his genital area and I heard him say "could you......" I interrupted him before he could finish what he was about to say and I said "your time is up" and walked out of the room.
I felt so digusted and angry because I had really believed he had a therapeutic need for a massage. I called a friend so when he came out of the room I could just show him out. He came out and found me standing by the front door. He handed me the money with a $10 tip and he said he would call to schedule another appointment. I just opened the door so he could leave without me saying a word. I felt violated in a way and needed a shower to wash away the disgust I was feeling.
That guy really had me confused. I still can't decide if he was actually someone who had an injury and figured he could use it to fool an unsuspecting massage therapist into doing extra work on him and then try to turn it into something more. Or he is someone who enjoys pain and learned some terminology so he could sound like he had a legitimate reason for asking for some uncomfortable work to be done on him. I decided then that I would start collecting payment upfront, and I would no longer go over the time the client was paying for and I went and got pepper spray later that day, just in case.
Monday, December 19, 2011
Say What?
I have gotten some interesting phone calls in the last few months and some of them have left me thinking “what the hell?” but I guess it comes with the territory in this business
This guy called a day after I put an ad on craigslist for therapeutic massage, there was a picture of me on the massage table, I was completely dressed. I pulled the ad after the call, I am done with craigslist.
Him: ”hi, I saw your ad and would like to see you. Is that really you in the picture?”
Me: ”yes, it’s me in the picture, do you want to make an appointment?”
Him: ”some girls use pictures of other people, do you have more pictures to send?”
Me: click
HE CALLS RIGHT BACK
Him: “Did you hang up? I think the call got dropped”
Me: “oh”
Him: “your picture looks very nice, I’d like to see more, do you have more to share?”
Me: “are you calling to make an appointment or not, you are wasting my time”
Him: “oh, ok, have a good day”
I received a call from this guy one evening after I placed a new ad on backpage.
Him: “hi, I am calling about your ad. How tall are you”
Me: “um, 5’7”
Him: “ oooh, I love tall women”
Me: “um, ok”
Him: “can I massage you as well”
Me: “sorry, I don’t offer mutual massage”
Him: “oh, that’s too bad, what if I pay you $200 and just massage you”
Me: “no, thanks”
LONG PAUSE
Him: “come on, I’ll pay $200”
Me: “thanks for your interest but I don’t do that. Have a good day” click
I received this call last week from a backpage ad. I have mostly been posting on backpage but I am planning to move away from that as well.
Him: “hi, I saw your ad and would like to see you. Wanted to see what you charge and where you are located?”
Me: “what type of massage are you looking for?”
Him: ”sensual, does that came with a happy ending?”
Me: “yes”
I get this question all the time and I really need to stop answering this by phone. EVERYONE wants a sensual massage I really don’t need to ask this.
Him: “ do you massage topless?”
Me: “no, I do not. Do you still want that appt.?”
Him: “ I guess, where are you located?”
Me: “ street address”
Him: ” so you don’t work topless?”
Me: “it sounds to me like you are looking for services I don’t offer and you might want to call someone else”
Him: “I was hoping I would be able to cum on your boobs”
Me: ”nope, wrong person” click
I hate the overly friendly guys, they usually take that familiarity act too far in person as well. Another caller from backpage
Him: “ hi sweetheart! Are you available?
Me: trying to figure out if I know this guy “hi”
Him: “can you see me in about an hour?”
Me: “I should be able to, what type of massage are you looking for?”
Him: “sensual, sweatheart. Can I touch you also?”
Me: “no, I don’t offer that”
Him: “oh, well let me call you back then”
Right, like that’s happening.
This guy called from an ad on craigslist about 2 months ago. My ads state that I do not answer blocked or restricted numbers. He called several times from a restricted number and I kept rejecting the calls. Eventually it went to voicemail and he left a message begging me to pick up because he was calling from his work phone. So I did the next time he called but I shouldn’t have bothered.
Him: ”thank you for taking the call, I am using my work phone so I have to be careful”
He sounded kind of “off” but who am I to judge?
Me: “yes, I usually will not take restricted calls”
Him: “ I saw your ad and want to make an appt.”
Me: “ok, when would you like the appt.?”
Him: “are you by yourself?”
Me: “what do you mean?”
Him: “I don’t like other people around”
Me: “I work at home but I work by myself”
Him: “ oh good, I don’t like when others are there”
Me: “ ok”
Him: “ I just need to make sure it’s just you”
Me: “ yes, I work by myself
Him: “how late do you work?”
Me: “ I work from 10am to 7pm”
Him: “can I see you at 4:30?” it was already past 4:30
Me: “so you want an appt. for 4:30pm tomorrow?”
Him: “ I go to work very early, can I see you in the morning?”
Me: “what time in the morning?”
Him: “4:30”
Me: “ I am not available until 10am”
Him: “ can I come over at 4:30?’”
Me: “ um, I think you should probably find someone else. I am not sure I am the right one for you”
Him: “well, I will call you back tomorrow then”
Me: “no, there is no need for you to call me back. Goodbye”
Him: “I will call tomorrow”
Me: “no, you won’t. goodbye.” click
This guy called a day after I put an ad on craigslist for therapeutic massage, there was a picture of me on the massage table, I was completely dressed. I pulled the ad after the call, I am done with craigslist.
Him: ”hi, I saw your ad and would like to see you. Is that really you in the picture?”
Me: ”yes, it’s me in the picture, do you want to make an appointment?”
Him: ”some girls use pictures of other people, do you have more pictures to send?”
Me: click
HE CALLS RIGHT BACK
Him: “Did you hang up? I think the call got dropped”
Me: “oh”
Him: “your picture looks very nice, I’d like to see more, do you have more to share?”
Me: “are you calling to make an appointment or not, you are wasting my time”
Him: “oh, ok, have a good day”
I received a call from this guy one evening after I placed a new ad on backpage.
Him: “hi, I am calling about your ad. How tall are you”
Me: “um, 5’7”
Him: “ oooh, I love tall women”
Me: “um, ok”
Him: “can I massage you as well”
Me: “sorry, I don’t offer mutual massage”
Him: “oh, that’s too bad, what if I pay you $200 and just massage you”
Me: “no, thanks”
LONG PAUSE
Him: “come on, I’ll pay $200”
Me: “thanks for your interest but I don’t do that. Have a good day” click
I received this call last week from a backpage ad. I have mostly been posting on backpage but I am planning to move away from that as well.
Him: “hi, I saw your ad and would like to see you. Wanted to see what you charge and where you are located?”
Me: “what type of massage are you looking for?”
Him: ”sensual, does that came with a happy ending?”
Me: “yes”
I get this question all the time and I really need to stop answering this by phone. EVERYONE wants a sensual massage I really don’t need to ask this.
Him: “ do you massage topless?”
Me: “no, I do not. Do you still want that appt.?”
Him: “ I guess, where are you located?”
Me: “ street address”
Him: ” so you don’t work topless?”
Me: “it sounds to me like you are looking for services I don’t offer and you might want to call someone else”
Him: “I was hoping I would be able to cum on your boobs”
Me: ”nope, wrong person” click
I hate the overly friendly guys, they usually take that familiarity act too far in person as well. Another caller from backpage
Him: “ hi sweetheart! Are you available?
Me: trying to figure out if I know this guy “hi”
Him: “can you see me in about an hour?”
Me: “I should be able to, what type of massage are you looking for?”
Him: “sensual, sweatheart. Can I touch you also?”
Me: “no, I don’t offer that”
Him: “oh, well let me call you back then”
Right, like that’s happening.
This guy called from an ad on craigslist about 2 months ago. My ads state that I do not answer blocked or restricted numbers. He called several times from a restricted number and I kept rejecting the calls. Eventually it went to voicemail and he left a message begging me to pick up because he was calling from his work phone. So I did the next time he called but I shouldn’t have bothered.
Him: ”thank you for taking the call, I am using my work phone so I have to be careful”
He sounded kind of “off” but who am I to judge?
Me: “yes, I usually will not take restricted calls”
Him: “ I saw your ad and want to make an appt.”
Me: “ok, when would you like the appt.?”
Him: “are you by yourself?”
Me: “what do you mean?”
Him: “I don’t like other people around”
Me: “I work at home but I work by myself”
Him: “ oh good, I don’t like when others are there”
Me: “ ok”
Him: “ I just need to make sure it’s just you”
Me: “ yes, I work by myself
Him: “how late do you work?”
Me: “ I work from 10am to 7pm”
Him: “can I see you at 4:30?” it was already past 4:30
Me: “so you want an appt. for 4:30pm tomorrow?”
Him: “ I go to work very early, can I see you in the morning?”
Me: “what time in the morning?”
Him: “4:30”
Me: “ I am not available until 10am”
Him: “ can I come over at 4:30?’”
Me: “ um, I think you should probably find someone else. I am not sure I am the right one for you”
Him: “well, I will call you back tomorrow then”
Me: “no, there is no need for you to call me back. Goodbye”
Him: “I will call tomorrow”
Me: “no, you won’t. goodbye.” click
Thursday, December 15, 2011
Hall Of Shame
The phony therapeutic client: These are the types of clients that a legitimate massage therapist does not want yet they are usually the targets of these guys. I had a couple of these when I was doing only therapeutic work and their behavior makes every other client suspect. They know just enough medical terminology to confuse you into thinking they have a legitimate problem area. I will be putting up some of my “favorites” hall of shame candidates. Here is #1
JOSE – he obviously has money, in his late 50’s or early 60’s. He said he had problems with his right thigh, specifically the Sartorius, a muscle that goes from the front of the hip and crosses the thigh diagonally. So it could be logical that he also had issues with his glutes and oh, he had some elbow pain as well, although we didn’t spend any time on his elbow. He usually wanted a 90 minutes session. The majority of that time was spent massaging his lower ab area and the pain seem to move a lot, usually lower and it was not an easy task trying to keep him covered as I tried to massage away his phantom pain. During one of his earlier sessions with me once he reached out and touched my back and I told him not to do that, I only do therapeutic work. I didn’t think he would come back but he did.
Because the sessions were longer my cd would finish playing and I would have to go restart it and I started to notice that every time I came back, although he was still covered by the sheet, his “package” had been moved to the area that I am working on. He knew there would be no way for me to work on that area without somehow brushing against it or I would have to physically move it out of the way so I worked around it but I could see he was enjoying the friction from the sheet rubbing against him as I worked. He would get a massage 2-3 times a week and this went on for about 3 months. I knew by now he didn’t really want nor need a therapeutic massage although he was still claiming he had those same issues in the thigh area. I really didn’t want to deal with him anymore and usually wasn’t returning his calls. One day when he scheduled a session I had a surprise for him and I treated him to a heat pack treatment on his hips and thigh and barely used my hands. That got rid of him. Soon afterwards I stopped doing massage.
After my break from doing massage, I placed an ad on craigslist, knowing that I would very likely be getting the same types of people again. On the second day of my ad he called for an appt. but didn’t know it was me, I had a new number and address but I recognized his number and told him it was me. He said I had mentioned moving away so he thought I wasn’t doing massage anymore but he wanted the appt. We started the cycle over again and one day we were talking about sensual massage and I said I had been thinking about it but not sure I was comfortable yet with the idea. While massaging him I “think” I accidentally brushed against his penis and if I did it truly was an accident. He started trying to rub my breast and asking if he could massage me and telling me that he is very good and I have known him for such a long time and should trust him by now. At this point he is sitting up and holding on to my wrist pretty tightly and asking to massage me so I agree to let him massage my back. He is telling me how good he is at doing massage but I refuse to let him touch anywhere else. As he was leaving he grabbed me and started kissing me, I kept my mouth closed and can smell that he had onions with lunch and I just looked at him until he finally stopped. He says that I started it because I touched him, umm, it’s called a massage, that’s what I do. He called about two weeks later for an appointment and said he didn’t think he did anything wrong. I told him he needed to find someone else to massage him. This was BEFORE I even started doing sensual massage.
JOSE – he obviously has money, in his late 50’s or early 60’s. He said he had problems with his right thigh, specifically the Sartorius, a muscle that goes from the front of the hip and crosses the thigh diagonally. So it could be logical that he also had issues with his glutes and oh, he had some elbow pain as well, although we didn’t spend any time on his elbow. He usually wanted a 90 minutes session. The majority of that time was spent massaging his lower ab area and the pain seem to move a lot, usually lower and it was not an easy task trying to keep him covered as I tried to massage away his phantom pain. During one of his earlier sessions with me once he reached out and touched my back and I told him not to do that, I only do therapeutic work. I didn’t think he would come back but he did.
Because the sessions were longer my cd would finish playing and I would have to go restart it and I started to notice that every time I came back, although he was still covered by the sheet, his “package” had been moved to the area that I am working on. He knew there would be no way for me to work on that area without somehow brushing against it or I would have to physically move it out of the way so I worked around it but I could see he was enjoying the friction from the sheet rubbing against him as I worked. He would get a massage 2-3 times a week and this went on for about 3 months. I knew by now he didn’t really want nor need a therapeutic massage although he was still claiming he had those same issues in the thigh area. I really didn’t want to deal with him anymore and usually wasn’t returning his calls. One day when he scheduled a session I had a surprise for him and I treated him to a heat pack treatment on his hips and thigh and barely used my hands. That got rid of him. Soon afterwards I stopped doing massage.
After my break from doing massage, I placed an ad on craigslist, knowing that I would very likely be getting the same types of people again. On the second day of my ad he called for an appt. but didn’t know it was me, I had a new number and address but I recognized his number and told him it was me. He said I had mentioned moving away so he thought I wasn’t doing massage anymore but he wanted the appt. We started the cycle over again and one day we were talking about sensual massage and I said I had been thinking about it but not sure I was comfortable yet with the idea. While massaging him I “think” I accidentally brushed against his penis and if I did it truly was an accident. He started trying to rub my breast and asking if he could massage me and telling me that he is very good and I have known him for such a long time and should trust him by now. At this point he is sitting up and holding on to my wrist pretty tightly and asking to massage me so I agree to let him massage my back. He is telling me how good he is at doing massage but I refuse to let him touch anywhere else. As he was leaving he grabbed me and started kissing me, I kept my mouth closed and can smell that he had onions with lunch and I just looked at him until he finally stopped. He says that I started it because I touched him, umm, it’s called a massage, that’s what I do. He called about two weeks later for an appointment and said he didn’t think he did anything wrong. I told him he needed to find someone else to massage him. This was BEFORE I even started doing sensual massage.
Thursday, December 8, 2011
Too Close For My Comfort
Hall of Shame
I think to be successful as an erotic masseur one has to be able to easily switch off their emotions, be good at acting, be desperate for money or really enjoy "meeting" different people. I now know without a doubt that providing sensual massage is not for me, just about every client I see puts me on edge because so many of them think that because they are getting a hand job it automatically gives them the right to be all over me.
If the guys would behave themselves I think I might be ok with doing the hand jobs but I am not ok with a bunch of strangers attempting to grab my breast or pull my top off or trying to insert their fingers into me, unlike these men, I do not want strangers touching me intimately. One guy grabbed onto me so tightly last week as I was massaging him I couldn't move and had to tell him to let go off me. I don't want to deal with the annoyance of these men's assumptions that I provide services that I do not provide. I already know that doing therapeutic massage does not guarantee that I won't deal with idiots looking for more but I won't have to wonder if what I am wearing is making them think that anything goes. Jerks will be jerks no matter what but I can eliminate some of them by making some changes when I return to doing therapeutic work.
For any therapeutic massage therapist who might be considering crossing that line my advice is don’t do it! Unless you have a need to be disrespected by men who think they can do whatever they want to you because you agreed to give them a hand job.
I will be sharing some behaviors by clients in a hall of shame post.
I think to be successful as an erotic masseur one has to be able to easily switch off their emotions, be good at acting, be desperate for money or really enjoy "meeting" different people. I now know without a doubt that providing sensual massage is not for me, just about every client I see puts me on edge because so many of them think that because they are getting a hand job it automatically gives them the right to be all over me.
If the guys would behave themselves I think I might be ok with doing the hand jobs but I am not ok with a bunch of strangers attempting to grab my breast or pull my top off or trying to insert their fingers into me, unlike these men, I do not want strangers touching me intimately. One guy grabbed onto me so tightly last week as I was massaging him I couldn't move and had to tell him to let go off me. I don't want to deal with the annoyance of these men's assumptions that I provide services that I do not provide. I already know that doing therapeutic massage does not guarantee that I won't deal with idiots looking for more but I won't have to wonder if what I am wearing is making them think that anything goes. Jerks will be jerks no matter what but I can eliminate some of them by making some changes when I return to doing therapeutic work.
For any therapeutic massage therapist who might be considering crossing that line my advice is don’t do it! Unless you have a need to be disrespected by men who think they can do whatever they want to you because you agreed to give them a hand job.
I will be sharing some behaviors by clients in a hall of shame post.
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