Hall of Shame
I think to be successful as an erotic masseur one has to be able to easily switch off their emotions, be good at acting, be desperate for money or really enjoy "meeting" different people. I now know without a doubt that providing sensual massage is not for me, just about every client I see puts me on edge because so many of them think that because they are getting a hand job it automatically gives them the right to be all over me.
If the guys would behave themselves I think I might be ok with doing the hand jobs but I am not ok with a bunch of strangers attempting to grab my breast or pull my top off or trying to insert their fingers into me, unlike these men, I do not want strangers touching me intimately. One guy grabbed onto me so tightly last week as I was massaging him I couldn't move and had to tell him to let go off me. I don't want to deal with the annoyance of these men's assumptions that I provide services that I do not provide. I already know that doing therapeutic massage does not guarantee that I won't deal with idiots looking for more but I won't have to wonder if what I am wearing is making them think that anything goes. Jerks will be jerks no matter what but I can eliminate some of them by making some changes when I return to doing therapeutic work.
For any therapeutic massage therapist who might be considering crossing that line my advice is don’t do it! Unless you have a need to be disrespected by men who think they can do whatever they want to you because you agreed to give them a hand job.
I will be sharing some behaviors by clients in a hall of shame post.
4 comments:
I think if you wear more conservative cloths and promote yourself as a therapeutic massage with a sensual touch, you could find the guys just looking for a happy ending without being grabby. Just a thought. I know a few ladies like yourself and they still deal with the trashy guys, but not nearly as much.
I don't know if you do this already but perhaps some sort of "before I start"
speech where you lay out the rules would help. I would do it before he is on the table and be pleasant but firm. Don't worry about it being a turnoff - a reasonable guy will understand.
It's a shame that's how things have gone for you. Touch can be such a wonderful and powerful thing!
Anon1,
I have stopped wearing the boy shorts and now wear some looser fitting longer shorts and different tops. I might even go back to wearing long pants.
Anon2,
Good idea, I felt I should be doing something like that but I wasn't. I used to have clients fill out a form for therapeutic work and it stated that inappropriate behavior would end the session. Maybe I should have a drawing of a woman with a big X over the boobs and butt with the word "no touching!" printed on it :-)
Joe,
You are right and I find that most of these men are really just wanting a handjob and could care less about the massage. Sadly, I think I have been giving less than my best massages lately due to how I am feeling so things have to change.
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